True Love

 

What really is love?  Is it a feeling?  an action?  maybe a moment of zen where you know you are supposed to be in that particular spot, Or maybe its just the giving of yourself completely.  Is it feeling comfortable, Is it the moments when you can be yourself, Is it the need to please that person and show them gratitude.

The answer is not easy, It is actually a accumulation of all of those things. 

I for one do not believe in love at first sight…. Ok maybe just lust at first sight and love sneaks up later, but I think love is something that over time progresses.  It is like stairs, the further you go up, the closer you are to your destination.  Love is not just words, but actions, it is being with someone and not just seeing them for what they can do for you, BUT what you can do for them, It is a two way street, it must be met in the middle to be somewhat successful. 

If you find yourself climbing and climbing and they seem to be getting more distant, they are not walking the same path as you, But if they are matching your steps, even trying to keep up with you…(Remember not everyone is at your pace) give them some credit. 

I knew someone, someone so completely different than myself, that it was almost obscene we be together.  My friends questioned my sanity.  What drew me to them?  Total honesty and well, they did not want me physically just yet.  They took their time, to get to know me, they listened to my rants and raves,  they supported my decisions, they made me feel as if I was not a total chick, it was this thing called Respect.  It felt good. 

Needless to say, it did not last,  but once again I gained so much from that, I learned to be subjective, to use my brains and not my heart all the time.  Which that alone was worth any pain I felt leaving them behind. 

Really I did not leave, I just stepped away and let them battle their own demons, they had a few and I could not take on the world for them anymore. 

One thing I believe is that whatever was felt in that time, since I had set all the physical stuff aside, was pure and true.  It was not an escape, nor was it just a moment of insanity that lasted a year.

I am one to forgive and forget easily,  I do not harbor darkness, I let it out in my poetry and writing, therefore, I am a much more peaceful person when it comes to being hurt. 

When you truly love someone, it does not matter if they are with you or not,only that they have happiness in their life that should matter, that is so true, and it is a testament to true love to let go.

I cannot stress enough that letting go dose not mean, Not loving, it is the action behind it that speaks volumes,  it is the care and concern for the other that is the ultimate sacrifice.  You may still hurt, but they may be better off without you. 

Finding one that truly loves you takes time, and I am not saying X amount of hours, but time, time to really dig deep, be honest with each other, and really share thoughts, dreams and futures.  If you think you love someone at say 3 months,  wait another 3, see what happens… If it is a mutual relationship, they too will still be there.  Walking along with you, up the steps of life.  meeting you half way, and making sure you know how much your appreciated.

Love is not beauty, nor sex, it is not a single emotion or words, It cannot be given without taking pieces of you with it.  Love is a package of so many small things that add up to the greatest achievement of all, Love. Always remember, a heart is the only thing you, that you can give away, and yet get more back than given.