We all have that friend, The one who goes from Favorite to Freakin Basket case in 2 Seconds. The smallest things can set them off, and they don’t seem to recover, It is as if the emotions have super ceded their alter personality, the one we did like.
These people seem to go in Cycles, Be it weekly, Monthly or quarterly, But there is a pattern So when ever that pattern is UP, You are now ether being their shoulder to cry on or trying to keep them sane from their own doings. If you are not with them, you are against them… How dare you not side with them, They are always right and you SHOULD follow their lead.
They will claim to be hurt, the victim, or just plain sad because someone, Once again did something to them, But you being the sane person are going to have to recognize the pattern. They are Oblivious to the fact that they seem to be the common denominator, since well, In their world and that is the only one that counts, They are never wrong.
It is human to error, It is just plain easy to learn from our mistakes if we take the time out to look at the past. But wait, they are not going to do this, Oh no, because they are the victims, claiming No one loves them, Everyone is against them and well, those that have walked away are the reason for their new found cycled sadness.
Those that have walked are the sane ones, they are the ones who have recognized the emotionally draining bullshit that lies beneath, and have choose not to be part of the cycle any longer They are the ones who are no longer going to allow them to bring them down with you, so to speak.
Once you allow yourself to be roped into these people, you will basically be their biggest fan, but after a few cycles it gets old, you start to question yourself, Why am I feeling like this, I should support them, I should back them. It is like trying to back a Run away train, No matter what you do, it is going to come and all you can do is sit by and watch from a Far distance or stand close, bear the bull shit and damage then look back later and say “How many times is this going to happen?”
The emotionally exhausting WILL take your energy away. You will be left with feeling a bit less of a person after a bout of their depression, anger or Victimization. Why? I swear they steal it from you, to build up more momentum to keep up their roller coaster.
So bottom line is, If you have that friend who tens to be teetering on the line of a patterned dramatized secondlife. They tend to run from one group to another, they lose and gain friends in a rotation, They have Lots of stories about being the victim, and still seem bothered by it. IF you leave your secondlife feeling emotionally weak after spending 2 hours trying to make them feel better…. You are in their emotionally engulfing sea of pity.
I read a Quote that said plainly “Don’t make a permanent mistake when your temporarily angry”
Those are words to live by, Keep friends by and well, Stay somewhat sane by
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