The Emotionally Debilitating and Draining in Secondlife

 

We all have that friend,  The one who goes from Favorite to Freakin Basket case in 2 Seconds.  The smallest things can set them off, and they don’t seem to recover,  It is as if the emotions have super ceded their alter personality, the one we did like.

These people seem to go in Cycles, Be it weekly, Monthly or quarterly,  But there is a pattern  So when ever that pattern is UP, You are now ether being their shoulder to cry on or trying to keep them sane from their own doings.  If you are not with them, you are against them… How dare you not side with them,  They are always right and you SHOULD follow their lead. 

 

They will claim to be hurt, the victim, or just plain sad because someone, Once again did something to them, But you being the sane person are going to have to recognize the pattern.  They are Oblivious to the fact that they seem to be the common denominator, since well,  In their world and that is the only one that counts, They are never wrong. 

It is human to error, It is just plain easy to learn from our mistakes if we take the time out to look at the past.  But wait, they are not going to do this,  Oh no, because they are the victims, claiming No one loves them, Everyone is against them and well, those that have walked away are the reason for their new found cycled sadness. 

Those that have walked are the sane ones,  they are the ones who have recognized the emotionally draining bullshit that lies beneath, and have choose not to be part of the cycle any longer  They are the ones who are no longer going to allow them to bring them down with you, so to speak. 

Once you allow yourself to  be roped into these people, you will  basically be their biggest fan, but after a few cycles it gets old, you start to question yourself,  Why am I  feeling like this, I should support them, I should back them.  It is like trying to back a Run away train, No matter what you do, it is going to come and all you can do is sit by and watch from a Far distance or stand close, bear the bull shit and damage then look back later and say “How many times is this going to happen?” 

The emotionally exhausting WILL take your energy away.  You will be left with feeling a bit less of a person after a bout of their depression, anger or Victimization.  Why?  I swear they steal it from you, to build up more momentum to keep up their roller coaster.  

So bottom line is, If you have that friend who tens to be teetering on the  line of a patterned dramatized secondlife.  They tend to run from one group to another, they lose and gain friends in a rotation,  They have Lots of stories about being the victim, and still seem bothered by it.  IF you leave your secondlife feeling emotionally weak after spending 2 hours trying to make them feel better….  You are in their emotionally engulfing  sea of pity. 

I read a Quote that said plainly “Don’t make a permanent mistake when your temporarily angry”

Those are words to live by, Keep friends by and well, Stay somewhat sane by

Not so Black and White

 

So I did a blog on relationships, called That Gray Shaded area But I left out a side, The side everyone else Presumes.  A relationship Is a 2 way road, But Be it friendship Dating, Serious or not, People will have their opinions.  Most are from what they see, Hear and notice, others from what you tell them, Others just out of pure speculation.  So now we are at a Square, No longer a triangle. 

 

No matter what you do you cannot stop this from happening,  It is human nature to come to a conclusion based on their interactions with them, Regardless of it was good, bad or just plain Hideous.

Chatting to a friend about a couple her comment was

“They were always perfect together” 

Funny because they are no longer together, But that does not stop them from having an opinion.  Not that I disagree with them or their opinion, I actually do agree, But once again it is a 3rd party viewing at this Point. 

So here it is, that gray shaded area has 2 areas, the reality and the assumptions that others place on that relationship.  It is usually the 3rd party references that have the rumors, the insinuations and sometimes they may be dead on, but one thing is for sure,  It does not matter who you  are but your actions or lack there of will be tallied for later assumptions, and judged by others.  So get on your game face and make it worth the rumor.

Peace Out

The Drama–The D-R-A-M-A`

So today I was out with My sister N brother to dinner and Get an IM, Can U DJ my Birthday party and come dance with me, Umm Of course,   I say  If I can bring a date- I can bring one but I have to dance with him– I mean Really  I am Ok with that…..I had a party planned for Mr late On his drunken asses Birthday but He was having fun IRL – Sooo I log in and find I have a Limo waiting tonight.. funny thing It is to Thane – I know this sim, It is where a friend Lost his man parts and got an IM saying come get me – Smirks – Umm sorry had to share – Soo the party starts and 3 hours later – I get an IM

OMG I TPd F

Umm I called BS

No it was true a few minutes later I was defriended and banned from the sim, ejected from the group and Fired from my job..

Really Your going to fire me because I am DJing a party at a Mutual friends Birthday Because you don’t like the People there – Umm OK… I was offered a lot of Money to do it, I did not take it – This was a gratis thing, I did not want Money Just wanted to be there period and help out.... I know wtf is going on, I am not diving into the drama, when I got the IM From the Gen Manager  saying I just basically  was tossed Out, I said Umm Ok, for being at a Mutual Friends party, That’s cool, Ok, have a good Night, then the GM defriended me.

Bottom, line here is, last week I was told  as her BFF and  part of her family n she loved me how wonderful I was, Me being there does not affect me and her friendship – Or did it… No there is no Logic there, Just her pissed off emotions.

But She defriended all of us, anyone that was there was banned and muted, I am not going to say what club it was if you want to know IM me Inworld. I am not gonna be a Bitch about it, No need to,  It is Not my first banning from her – Usually over guilt by association, This will never stop – when girls are mad – they fix it by banning people, anyone that is betraying them at least in their eyes.

tonight I am on a lot of alcohol and ummmm I am not in a fighting mood just wanna chill n have fun,  Why she defriended all of us only for the reason, that she did not like 2 people, that is beyond me, Well It is 3 AM and I should get it bed soooo Nigh Night – Night B day boy – Hugs n kisses,  Me being there for u tonight was well worth it – I wanted to be there for U n e way….

ADD On - Amazing how after all that she can IM the guy whos Birthday party I was at and never even bother with me, Well he has man parts and I don't is what I am summing it out to, To bad she will be the one missing out on both of our friendships since we are in Pure bliss without the drama she creates. Now Excuse me, I have another Drama Free evening coming up and I plan to spend it with the Birthday boy again... :)